Deven Trobash has been single for 8 years, and for the past year, she has tried unsuccessfully to sell her South Florida home. Her desperation has inspired her to combine two things in one. She is planning to sell her home for a cool $500,000 with one extra bonus, she comes with the purchase. Deven Trobash, the 41-year-old out of practice real estate agent, claims her combo listing is not a gimmick or an attempt to garner attention. Rather it is just a simple listing that combines her two greatest woes, selling her home and finding love. According to The Ledger, not everyone is on board with Deven Trobash’s idea. Her 14-year old-daughter insists that her mother is embarrassing her and many critics claim the listing is just a sales gimmick or worse yet the act of a truly desperate woman.
Deven Trobash originally listed her home on Craigslist and Ebay. Ebay has since dropped the listing because their TOS states that one can not sell a human being or a relationship. I guess Ebay is not interested in getting involved in the black market or mail-order brides. Deven Trobash told the Ledger that she has not received any serious offers yet, but has been corresponding with some people since her listing appeared.
The over forty mother of two has certainly resorted to a pretty high-risk dating strategy and I am forced to wonder if Deven Trobash has never heard of Match.com or has a friend or two with a single pal? There are far better ways to find love than by throwing a dollar amount on yourself as an added bonus to a home. Most people don’t want to buy a home these days in the soft real estate market, let alone a person!
Before putting a house and a person on the overly depressed Real Estate market there are better ways to find a mate. Let’s explore some of those ways.
The old bar routine is not dead yet. You walk into a bar or club and sit down. You order a drink and if you are even a remotely attractive woman odds are someone will come over to chat with you. You might not find a mate for life but you might at least get a couple of drinks and a phone number out of the deal.
If bars and clubs are so “1980,” a social group is a great way to go about meeting people. I’ve met people during exercise classes, in the gym and in dance classes (yes there are men in dance classes!). Joining a group that interests a person allows them to meet people with similar interests. A love connection could bloom out of that social group,who knows.
Join a meet-up group that is in your area. Meet-up groups are groups of people who have interests in common and plan meets every once and awhile to talk or take part in an activity. Meetup.com is the number one site for this type of thing. The activeness of the group and the member count will all depend on what type of group it is and where it is located but there are some pretty large groups that put on weekly or biweekly Meet-ups. The man of Deven Trobash’s dreams might just be waiting at her local bird watchers meet-up group.
The old tried and true method of dating still works, I swear it does. Millions of people find love through friends or family members. In Deven Trobash’s case I’m assuming she knows more than a few people who could introduce her to a perfectly acceptable companion. The rising divorce rate has created a whole new dating pool and people over 40 no longer have to deal with the difficult task of finding people in the same situation. Heck, I can think of many people I know who are already divorced and tons more people who are single and looking.
Millions of people have taken their dating to the internet when they find the bar, club and friend scene to be unsuccessful. Sites like Match.com and Eharmony.com bring together people who are looking for relationships. There are tons of websites out there and many of them are directed at certain groups or demographics. The online dating scene is a win/win situation. You can correspond with people for a while until you feel comfortable to meet up and it helps you to weed out undesirables before you are sitting in a restaurant just praying for the check to show up so you can go home.
In short Deven Trobash’s plea to buy her house and her companionship reeks of “publicity” stunt but if the single mom really wants to meet a great man selling herself with her home is not the way to go about it. I can only imagine some of the creeps and social misfits that would come out of the woodwork to respond to that kind of listing. There are many other, proven effective, methods of meeting mates.